Sometimes we get angry at others because they completely misunderstood what we were saying about some particular circumstance. Some say,” look at what I mean not at what I say.” I think that can be true, but I also think that there is a fine line between the different uses of certain words in or out of context that can confuse people.
That happened to me recently. I am going to be more careful from now on with what I say and how I say it.
This could be why what I say makes me fumble my words with people all the time. In the end, I am usually the one that gets hurt and it’s my fault, so it makes sense that I should get hurt, or should I?
I always say, “I write better than I speak”. When I have a problem with someone, say I hurt them, or they hurt me, I would rather take the time to write it all out and all alone by myself. In this way, I can concentrate on the information that I want to express and not miss anything important that I wanted to say without interruptions, feelings or that person throwing words at me so fast that I cannot keep up. When that happens, my mind gets all jumbled and I become stressed and then my brain takes a short vacation at just the wrong time. Now, it’s anybody’s guess what I will say next because my brain is on vacation.
We are so complex that there could be a hundred ways of reacting to the said situation and still be wrong.
Also, the other person can interpret it a hundred different ways and still be wrong. So that just makes a mess of things. It is very frustrating for all involved.
But when someone seems hysterical you can’t believe everything that they say or know by the way that they say it, because when you’re upset it’s hard to be rational and discerning. It’s at this time that your words get out of control.
What a mess that can be and you have to live with whatever happens and try and figure out how to fix it and be more careful next time.
Just a thought